Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Not Alone Series: "if only I knew then...."

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What would you tell your former self about being single if given the chance? What have you learned that you wish you could tell your younger self?

You know that saying, "hindsight is 20/20"?
While I can't sum up my entire life with that cliche, there are definitely points in my younger single life when I wish I could go back to have a heart to heart with my high school self, or my college self. Or even my 6-months ago self.

Here are a just a few things that I would tell myself if given the chance:

Eliminate Expectations
Oh, girl. Make a genuine effort to stop. expecting. You trust that the Lord will bring you and your future husband together, yes? Then stop anticipating when it'll all come together. You'll save yourself a lot of heartache if you don't expect to be engaged/married by college graduation. It's hard, I know. But you'll be much better off if you just allow the Lord to guide you wherever He sees fit. And He has so much amazing stuff planned, things you never imagined. So eliminate your expectations and be willing to go with the flow.

Raise your Standards
You are worth so much more than you think. I know people say this all the time, but it's actually true. And believe me, it's much better to be single than to date the next guy who seems to be slightly interested. Or it's better to be single than to "hang out" with that guy you've been crushing on for years who'll never seriously commit. Please. I know you're lonely. I know it sucks being the only roommate without a boyfriend. But being with someone, just to be with someone isn't a good enough reason. And you're worth more than that.

Don't hold out for tomorrow
Today has so much to offer! 
Dive into your classes! Fully experience your internship! Spend quality time with your best friend!
Because let me tell you what, once you graduate, you'll be hard pressed to find time to read and learn and teach. And your best friend? She'll move, you'll move, and it will be much harder to stay in touch.
I know you're excited for the future and that "someday" when Mr. Right walks into your life, but please don't spend so much time wishing, waiting, hoping. 
Enjoy the now because "the now" is all that you're surely given.

What would you tell yourself if you could go back in time? Link up your post below! And we now have a Not Alone Series Facebook group! Join if you'd like to stay up to date on the NAS happenings! :)


Savannah Trip update!
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Next week's topic:
Valentine's Day
What are your thoughts about Valentine's Day? Do you enjoy it? Loathe it? Not even realize it's a special day? Do you celebrate it in any way? 

February 25th: Masculinity
Who is a great example of masculinity in your life (father, brother, uncle, priest, etc)? What is it about them that you love?

March 4th: Bachelorette parties!
It's inevitable that we'll attend or plan a friend's Bachelorette party at some point or another, but how do we make them fun without all the raunch? Give us your ideas for fun things to do with a bridal party without all the crazy!

March 11th: Why not both?
We've been hearing a lot that "married people and single people can't relate to one another". What is your perspective on this? In what ways can we bridge the gap between singles and marrieds?

March 18th: Single life bucket list
What are those things that you want to do before you get married (or enter the religious life)? Is there anything that you're excited to do, accomplish, etc. before engagement, marriage, and babies come along? Even if you feel that you've done everything you wanted to do pre-marriage, dig deeper and see if there isn't anything else you'd like to do!


  1. I really like your last point- today has so much to offer! Thanks for the reminder :)

  2. Morgan, love the eliminate expectations tip, and all the others of course, but I feel like the expectations thing is something I truly struggled with the past few years. And heck yes to taking advantage of today!! :)


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